Flattery
OR Fawning
Giving
a false and true compliment to someone for personal gain is called flattery/fawning.
The flatterer, for the sake of his own interests, describes the characteristics
of someone who does not exist. Flattery is a bad habit and a sign of deception.
In Islam, flattery is condemned and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah
be upon him) disliked praising him and instructed him to put dust in the mouth
of such a person. Because the flatterer is selfish, he uses such attributes to
convey his meaning that the listener begins to think of himself as possessing
qualities that are not inherent in him, while the flatterer "knife in the
armpit." I take out my work by creating a spirit of self-expression in
others under "Ram Ram".
The
flatterers do not refrain from calling the soil gold, the liar true and the
miser generous. They say yes to their boss or officer in everything. In earlier
times there was a large number of compliments in the court of kings, who used
to compliment kings and recite hymns in praise of kings with compliments, due
to which some of the brave and courageous people in the court of such kings
There was no respect, while flatterers would hold high positions. Whatever the
situation in the country, they kept signalling to the king that "everything
is fine". Because of this, those kings would have lost their great empire.
One of the reasons for the decline of Muslims in history is the abundance of
compliments. The rulers who liked flattery and were happy to hear false poetry,
fiction and conquests in their own glory, took full advantage of their weakness
and took over the kingdom.
Compliments
are usually given to people who hold positions higher than their own.
Appreciating their every word, praising their high taste in food, drink and
clothing, and keeping the Holy Prophet's writ in every work. Like a flatterer
in a king's court who was always at the forefront of the king's flattery. Once
the king said, "I like eggplant in vegetables." The king's court
immediately adopted a flattering manner. He said, "You are right. Eggplant
is the king of vegetables which is eaten only by the great nobles, princes and
kings. It has a beautiful shiny shape and is very useful for health. A few days
had passed that One day, the king mentioned eggplant in a court of law and
said, "I don't like eggplant curry." When the courtier heard this
compliment of the king, he said, "Leave me alone, O king. Peace be upon
you. Shape, black colour and heard that it also spoils the blood. It has a bad
taste which is eaten only by poor people. For a while, he gets rid of his
smooth talk, but gradually people become aware of his nature and stop believing
in his words, thus flattering man loses his dignity in the society.
It
is a well-known saying that "flattery is evil" which is not only
harmful to the flatterer but also to the one who likes his flattery and listens
to it with pleasure. To understand this, if we read the famous poem of Allama
Iqbal in which the spider and the bee are made the subject, we will know how
the spider flatters the bee and traps the bee in its net and the bee dies. Goes
In the same way, the story of the cunning fox and the crow is also instructive
for us, in which the fox makes the crow happy by giving him undue compliments,
and when the crow crows, he loses his piece of cheese.
In fact, flattery is based on lies, which have
fewer advantages and more disadvantages, so one should refrain from flattering
and listening as much as possible. Only the path of truth must be taken. Even
if it seems to cause harm, one should run away from lies and flattery.
In
the Qur'an, God says, "Why do you say what you do not do?" That is,
what we say should not be based on lies and flattery, but our words and deeds
should be the same, there should be no contradiction in what they say. Do it
yourself.
Every
human being has some strengths and weaknesses. Therefore, we should also look
at our own shortcomings and flaws and try to overcome the shortcomings of
others while overcoming our own shortcomings. If we begin to like flattery and
do not rejoice over our death, our downfall will begin. People who are aware of
their shortcomings and weaknesses find the destination, and those who are
surrounded by flatterers are usually doomed to failure. Our true and sincere
friend is the one who informs us of our shortcomings and the one who keeps
pouring our unwarranted compliments on our face all the time cannot be our
sincere one. This does not mean that we should always look for the faults of
others and be unaware of our own faults and become an example of
"admonishing others and humiliating oneself". When we look at our own
shortcomings, other people will look good on us and we will think about
correcting ourselves.
One
of the advantages of this is that when we are aware of all our strengths and
weaknesses, whoever praises us, we will understand that this praise is being
done purposefully and correctly. If there is a statement of a quality or an
attribute that is not present in us, then we will know that this
misrepresentation is based on a lie, so we will stop it. There should be no
hesitation.
When
a person likes compliments, he also has a desire to be praised all the time.
Such a person becomes accustomed to hearing sweet and amusing words, so when a
truthful thing is said on his face, he does not tolerate it and goes out of his
mind. He considers the one who speaks the truth as his enemy and the one who
flatters him as his well-wisher and sincere friend. Thus, the series of
blessings and kindness that he desires continues.
An
example of a flatterer is a clown who greets guests at the reception gate of a
wedding party. Whenever any guest came, he would run and greet him in a mocking
manner and embrace him warmly and say, "Sir, I was waiting for you, I was
very happy and so on."
There
are many types of compliments that people use on different occasions. Because
flatterers are afraid of hard work, they are lazy, so they keep trying to get
everything out of flattery. Such people are practically useless and useless,
but sometimes they rise to great positions due to their conspiracies, poor and
smooth talk.
Compliments
are mostly made for illegal acts which deprive the rightful claimants of their
rights. Flattery spreads injustice in society. Cheap and easy are the names of
the game. Legitimate work has to be pushed and flattery, bribery and
recommendation can lead to wrongdoing. Due to which incompetent people come
forward. As a result, the country is declining instead of developing. Due to
flattery, even a hardworking person becomes useless and hollow inside, his
personality is distorted because he becomes unconcerned with his own correction
after hearing false compliments. Due to which the constructive spirit
disappears from within. In fact, flattery is a sweet poison that slowly shows
its effect and when flattery becomes common, nations fall into decline, so we
must take every possible measure to avoid flattery. If someone flatters you,
then stop him and condemn the flattery. We want to create good qualities in
ourselves. One should try to reform oneself and others by becoming a virtuous
and true Muslim. Prove yourself a good citizen and individual of the country
and nation by creating a spirit of hard work, honesty and truthfulness in
yourself. Avoid flattery and run away from flattery. Complimenting people who
are always flattering according to the nature and temperament of others under
the slogan "Let's go wherever the wind blows". May Allah
Almighty help us to avoid flattery and also help us to embrace truth and
realism. Amen